I was reading a post from Deliberate Donkey a few days ago where she mentioned that her Abusive soon to be ex-husband was going to ask the Judge to force this wonderfully helpful woman to shut down her blog because she is “harassing” him through it. When I read that, I wanted to attack. I offered to write a letter to the Judge for her and this is what I came up with.
My name is Abby and I am a survivor of horrific Domestic Abuse. It is not alleged abuse, it is proven abuse through images and a conviction for my abuser (who is currently in NJ State Prison). I was lucky enough to be able to have charges filed so that NO ONE can ever say I mistook my abusers actions for something other than Domestic Violence. I do not know you, you do not know me, however, I felt compelled to write you a letter because of the case you are hearing today.
My healing has been slow and hard, and I know I will never be the same woman or mother that I was before the abuse. One of the many ways I have been able to heal is through talking about my abuse (sometimes positive and sometimes negative). Another way I have been able to heal is by connecting with other women than have gone through similar situations as me. One of the best forums I have been able to be a part of is Melanie’s blog-Deliberate Donkey. This woman (that I have never met) understands me, my situation, and has given my abuse a voice. I can not only relate to her experience , she gives us survivors and current victims a VOICE. She shares our stories and we can all start and continue to heal together. She makes me laugh, she makes me cry, and she is a GIFT to anyone who reads her blog.
It is my understanding that there is a party that is attempting to shut this amazing forum down. It is my understanding that this person on HIS own has seeked out this forum and is attempting to continue his abuse and is using you as his vehicle. I can not give you his name, as I do not know what it is. I do not know his identity other than seeing so many of the same characteristics that were in my abuser. Please do not let him continue to try and control who she is and what she has been through. I beg and plead with you to KEEP THIS FORUM ONLINE. I have shared this with many of the woman I was in therapy with. It is a safe place for us to speak about our abuse, and it is a safe place for us to share our stories.
Thank you for taking the time to read this and I hope you take this woman’s journey and struggles into consideration.
I am not sure if this will even get to the judge but I had to try and help any way possible.
If our voices are loud enough, they CAN NOT ignore us any longer.
Love does not hurt. Stop Domestic Violence